”3 YEARS NA PALA AKONG KABET”

CONFESSION FILES (W/ ENGLISH TRANSLATION)

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(”I DIDN’T KNOW THAT I’M A MISTRESS FOR 3 YEARS.”)

(English translation below)

Dear Relate Corner ,

My name is Alec (not my real name) From QC , Isang Call center Agent sa isang BPO company here in Manila , doon ko din nakilala yung Boyfriend ko na si Jake(not his real name), 3 years ago. TL ko sya , 22 ako non at 27 y/old na sya.

Mabait si Jake, Maginoo na medyo bastos , Medyo mahitsura at Witty.

I remember my first day , I did so many mistakes but di sya nagagalit, pero pag sa Iba G na G sya, I felt that I’m somewhat special sa treatment at atensyon na binibigay nya sakin.

Nagtanong tanong ako sa mga Senior staff ng Company at Good feedback lang nakikinig ko. Taga Bohol si Jake but his tagalog Accent was very neat, maraming nagsasabe na Family Oriented si Jake , kaya na turn-On ako, 3years na sya sa Field namin,

Ini-stalk ko na din Social Media Accounts nya and nothing’s look Suspicious. Single din ang nakalagay sa Relationship status nya sa Facebook.

One time nagkaron ng Team Dinner at Inuman after , Medyo napadami ang inom ko that time dahil newbie ako ; required na Bottoms-up lagi ang turn.

Sobrang dizzy na ako,  I can’t open my eyes, but despite of that, I know what’s happening. Jake did care of me. Since di pa nya alam kung san ako nakatira dinala nya ako sa Condo nya , Pinunasan nya ako ng wet towel , Medyo nawawala na yung dizzy feeling ko , I slightly opened my eyes and smiled at him and he did likewise, Dahil sa tawag ng hormones , Nag kiss kame at biglang naging wild ang gabi na yun. Para kaming LDR na nagkita after how many years sa sobrang Intense ng pangyayare.

I admit that I’m not Virgin at all and he accept that, di naman daw yun ang habol nya , He said that He fell inlove with  me since day 1 na nakita nya ako, at ng gabing yun nagstart ang Day 1 namen as Couple.

Ang bilis ng panahon , 1 year na agad, di na namin napansin ang panahon dahil sa trabaho. Pinilit ko sya na dalhin nya ako sa Hometown nya, ilang beses naming pinagtalunan yun , kase feeling ko kinakahiya nya ako, pero pinipilit nya na Busy kase palage parents nya , kung pumunta kame don hindi din naman daw namin makikita.

1 year anniversary namen dinala nya ako sa Bohol , at pinakilala nya ako sa mga pinsan nya, Unfortunately half-day lang kame don at wala pa don sa kanila ang parents nya  like what he always  said na Busy parents nya, ”Hay tama nga sya , napagod lang kame sa byahe tapoos wala kaming aabutan.” sabe ko nalang sa sarili ko. Mga cousins lang  nya ang nandon dahil may family affair daw na pinuntahan ang parents nya , nag-uusap sila ng dialect nila kaya di ko naiintindihan, Di din sya Clingy sakin don , Naisip ko nalang na baka kase mga bata ang nandon kaya di ko nalang pinansin. Bumalik kami ng Manila at balik Work kame.

Smooth lang ang relationship namin , Sobrang proud ako sa pagiging Family Oriented nya, Lagi nyang pinapadalhan  ng pera family nya at kinakamusta ang bunso nyang kapatid thru call.

Kilala nadin sya ng Family ko, may tiwala sa kanya sina mama at papa, kaya feeling ko ang swerte swerte ko.

almost 3 years had passed – we’re like normal couple lang , after ng 1st anniversary namen di na ako nakarating again ng Bohol , pag umuuwi sya ng Bohol di nya ako sinasama dahil sabi nya mapapagod lang daw ako dahil bilang na bilang daw off ko.

Mag thi-third Anniv na namin , pero nasa Bohol padin sya. Nag sick Leave ako para mahaba haba ang off ko.

Pumunta ako ng Bohol kasama ang Bestfriend ko na si Ashley , Di ko iniisip ang haba ng byahe dahil gustong gusto ko syang makita at family nya for the first time.

Nakarating kami sa Bahay na pinuntahan namin non , Madali lang syang hanapin at wala namang masyadong nagbago.

”Hello , anong kailangan nyo po?”  tanong nong babae na lumabas sa bahay nina Jake,  Fortunately may nakausap kami na girl na fluent magtagalog.

”Ate andyan po ba si Jake” tanong ko , ”Jake? , ah oo si Jake , kaibigan ko yun kababata ko, bakit ate? ” sagot nya.

”di ba po dyan sya nakatira?” medyo kinakabahan na ako dahil bakit ganon ang sagot nya.

”Ha? di naman sya nakatira dito , ah wait parang natatandaan kita , ikaw ba yung pumunta dito 2 years ago, yung ka workmate nya , na naghahanap ng bahay dito sa Bohol? Nakita kita pero di kita nakausap kase May pinuntahan ako non, Naghello din ako pero sa dialect namen.”

nagulat ako sa sinabe nya? so pinakilala nya ako as Workmate na naghahanap ng bahay Sa Bohol? Pero di ko pinahalata na gulong gulo na utak ko.

”Ah oo ikaw yun , tanda ko na, Uhm so hindi mo kamag-anak si Jake? , kase nabanggit nya sakin na pinsan nya daw kayo at wala daw parents nya dito non kase may pinuntahan daw sila” tanong ko.

”Ganon talaga dito ate , Pag Close ang mga Pamilya dito tinuturing na namen ang isa’t isa na magkamag anak, pero nong time na pumunta kayo dito sabe nya dadaan lang daw sya dito tapos pupunta kayo sa asawa nya ”

”Asawa nya?” napasigaw ako sa narinig ko!

”Oo ate, si ate Jane nakilala nyo ba sya? , kaso di kami masyadong close ni ate Jane madalang ko din syang makausap”

Nanlambot ang aking mga tuhod , hawak hawak ako ng kaibigan ko , pero kahit sya nagulat sya sa narinig nya.

Di na ako makapagsalita ,  ”Ate , san po yung bahay ni Jake? kase limot na po namen” tanong ng bestfriend ko , and ilang taon na silang mag-asawa?

”Ah siguro mga 5 years ago na silang kasal? Nabuntis nya kasi si ate Jane kaya nagpakasal sila nong 22 years old sya.”

Di ko na kaya yung naririnig ko, pero gusto ko ng ebidensya, baka naman kase ibang Jake yung tinutukoy nya. Sana mali sya.

Naglalakad na kame , bumulong sakin Bestfriend ko ”bes, wag nalang kaya tayo tumuloy’ , kaya mo pa ba? ” sa sobrang gulong gulo ako , di ko nasagot yun.

Iniisip kong mabuti kung pano ko di nalaman na may asawa sya? Bakit?

Nakarating kami ng bahay nila , sa tunay na bahay nila! Sa may terrace nakita ko may sinusubuan syang bata , sabay may kiss don sa babae na katabi nya.

”Ate ayun si Jake o saka si Ate Jane” at tinawag nya ”JAKE! May Bisita ka!”

Tumingin ng nakangiti si Jake at biglang biglang bagsak din ng mga ngiti na yun ng nakita nya ako, dahil alam nya na secrets no more.

Ini-isip kong mabuti kung anong dapat magiging reaksyon ko, Kung magagalit ba o aacting na lang ako dahil andon yung bata.

Umalis na yung kaibigan ni Jake at naiwan kami ni Ashley  , Lumabas si Jane talking by her dialect , all we can understand is her Body language na pinapapasok nya kami sa bahay nila.

Galit na Galit ako, Di ko akalain na 3 taon akong kabet ! , Gustong gusto kong gumawa ng Eksena pero dahil sa alam ko na wala akong karapatan , I remain calm.

Nasa Sala kami ng bahay nila at nandon ang Frame nila nong Kinasal sa West.

Lumabas ang Nanay ni Jake , ”NENE JUICE” , anong gawa nyo dito Bohol ? ” tanong ng nanay nya na nagtrtrying hard na magtagalog.

Kaharap ko si Jake that time, di mapakali at putla.

”Naghahanap po ako ng Bahay dito sa Bohol” napatungo nalang si Jake nong marinig nya yun.

Nagsalita si Ashley , ”Total di naman sila nakaka intindi , Jake ang kapal ng muka mo , Bakit mo nagawa yun sa kaibigan ko”

After kong marinig yun sa bestfriend ko , tumulo nalang ang luha ko ng di ko namamalayan.

”wag dito Ashley , andito anak ko”  sagot ni Jake.

Lumabas kami ,  pinipilit akong kausapin ni Jake , pero di ako nagsalita habang tumutulo ang Luha ko.

di mapigilan ni Ashley ang kanyang sarili na magsalita ”How dare you to do this ? sa Bestfriend ko pa talaga? Are you even a Human , She trusted you for 3 years! ,What the hell on earth she did wrong para ma-betray ng ganto?Grabe ! You’re such a Jerk !”

”What did you just say?” Sabi ni Jane na bigla nalang sumulpot sa likod namen , She understands English at all”

Jake and Jane talk by their Dialect na para bang nagtatalo !

Nagwalk-out si Jane, hinabol sya ni Jake at naiwan kame sa ere ni Ashley.

Malapit ng Dumilim , Wala kaming matutuluyan ni Ashley, Iyak padin ako ng iyak. Hanggang sa dumating yung kaibigan ni Jake.

”Ate , tara na muna sa bahay namin , don na muna kayo magstay”

Di padin ako makapaniwala sa nangyare, di ko akalain na ganto ang mangyayari sakin.

”Ate sorry di ko alam na ganto ang mangyayare , anyway Dulce nga pala pangalan ko” habang inaabot nya ang mainit na kape samin ni Ashley.

”Wala kag kasalanan Dulce” ang sabe ko while having a swallowed face.” Salamat nadin dahil kung di dahil sayo di ko malalaman na Kasal na pala si Jake.”

”Kahit ako di ko maisip na magagawa yun ni Jake , Sobrang family Oriented nya at makikita mo na mahal na mahal nya family nya and….”

”Tok tok tok ”- di pa tapos magsalita sila Dulce ng may kumatok.

”Sandali lang ha? Buksan ko lang ang pinto”

Pagkabukas ng Pinto , Nakita ko si Jane, Pugtong pugto ang mata.

Tumulo nalang bigla ang luha ko. ” Sorry ! Sorry Jane , i didn’t know that he’s married already’, he has no sign of being married ! ”

Jane is also crying ”You’re a victim too , don’t blame yourself , now I know why he’s quite weird when he’s in Manila”

Jane told us that Jake told her that , In their Company, Married person is not allowed , ‘Coz if they’ve found out they will fire him , So their marriage should be in secret for their son’s future.

She also don’t know that Jake has different account on social media, When she saw the account she cried on burst , ‘coz there’s lot of photos of us on it.

So that’s the reason why all his posts and friends are only for his workmates and no friends and family from Bohol, I thought I’m the luckiest person ‘coz he’s too loyal to me,that akala ko na super family oriented sya  kasi nag i-ilove you pa sya don sa Mommy na laging tumatawag sa kanya na akala ko nanay nya yun , di ko naman maintindihan dahil sa dialect nila sila naguusap, yun pala si Jane.

Ang tanga tanga ko , ngayon lang nagkakasense lahat lahat , na sobrang obvious na.

He seems so perfect , But it makes sense that perfect Guys does never exists.

Sinabi ko kay Jane na di ko na sila guguluhin , Nagresign nadin ako sa pinagtratrabahuhan ko dahil  malabo na mapatawad ko pa sya. Pinili kong mag give way para don sa bata.

In somehow I understand na , kaya yung nagawa ni Jake dahil sa lungkot , but i did not Pity him , I just put myself on his shoes , to understand why he did that to me.

and it’s been 5 months after that incident happened, masakit padin pag na-aaalala ko, but it’s part of life, Tinatanong ko padin sa sarili ko kung bakit nangyare yun , Dahil ba sa sobrang Easy ko na nakuha nya?  I’m so embarrassed sa nangyare , Sinabe ko sa family ko na nagbreak kami dahil ayaw ko na at di dahil sa panloloko nya.

I’m planning to go in Hong-kong to  work there, para maka move on nadin. Wala akong mapaglabasan ng sama ng Loob kaya dito ko nalang nilabas.

At gusto ko ding malaman ng iba na di lahat ng kabit ay masama , May iba talaga na di nila alam na taken or married na yung partner nila, Dahil wala namang babae/lalake na gustong maging Kabet.

Maraming salamat Relate Corner, alam kong maraming makakarelate dito and sana sa mga tao na may same story like mine. Sana mahanap mo ang lugar mo, wag kang makikipaglaban kung sa una palang e wala kanang paglalagyan. Walang Mahal mahal sa Pangalan ng Batas. Kung alam mo ng mali , wag mo ng ituloy dahil baka mangyare ang karma sayo o sa magiging anak mo.

Sincerely yours;

ALEC , 25


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(ENGLISH TRANSLATION)

”I DIDN’T KNOW THAT I’M A MISTRESS FOR 3 YEARS.”

 

Dear Relate Corner ,

My name is Alec (not my real name) From QC ,  Call center Agent in BPO company here in Manila , where I met my Boyfriend name Jake (Not his real name) 3 years ago. He’s my Team Leader way back then, I’m 22  and he’ 27.

Jake is Kind , Quite Gentlemen but rude , handsome and Intelligent.

I remember my first day , I did so many mistakes but he did not blame or get mad at me , so unusual to others. I felt that I’m somewhat special on his treatment and attentions that he’s giving to me.

 

I asked the senior staff of the company and they all saying Good Feedback about him, he’s 3 years in our field,  hes from bohol, despite of different dialect he’s fluent in tagalog. Many of the staff saying that he’s family oriented , and that’s turn on for me,

I stalked him on his Social Media Accounts, and nothing’s look Suspicious, Also his relationship status is Single in Facebook.

One time the staff gathered on Team Dinner and drink some alcoholic beverages, I drunk a lot because bottoms-up is required when you’re newbie.

I feel dizzy already , I can’t open my eyes, but despite of that, I know what’s happening. Jake did care of me. Since  he didn’t know where i live , he brought me in his Condo. He cleaned my face face with wet towel , The dizzy feeling nears to gone. I slightly opened my eyes and smiled at him and he did likewise, with the call of hormones , We kissed and we transformed as Wild S*x Buddy that night. We’re like an LDR COUPLE who meet after so many years.

I admit that I’m not Virgin at all and he accept that, he said that’s not what he want from me, He said that He fell in love with  me since day 1 he meets me, and from that day we start as couple.

The time passed by , we’re already 1-year couple. We didn’t noticed that. Maybe because of work. One time I want him to take me in his hometown but he always rejecting me and we always start our fight because of that issue. He says that if f we go there , we were not able to meet his parents , because they’re always busy doing stuff. I felt the he’s ashamed of me but after our 1 year anniversary.

He went to Bohol , and introduce me to his cousins they’re talking thru their Dialect and I can’t understand at all, Unfortunately we can only stay there a half day , and like what he’s always saying. His parents is not there. ”he’s right, I waste my energy for nothing.” that’s all i can say in my mind. Only his cousins were there because his parents has another family affair to attend to and that’s so far from bohol. That time he’s not Clingy at all , I thought maybe he’s sensitive to the kids. We came back to Manila and starts working again.

Our relationship was smooth like others , I feel so proud ‘coz he’s so family oriented , he always sending money to his mommy and youngest brother.

My family knows him too, the trust him so much, So there’s nothing I can wish for.

almost 3 years had passed – we’re like normal couple, after our 1st anniversary I never went again in Bohol,  There’s time that when he went on Bohol , he did not even want to insist to go with him, his reason is I’ll be getting tired.

Our third anniv is near to come but he’s still in BOHOL , So I decided to surprise him. iI did file my sick leave to have a long off.

I went to Bohol with my bestfriend Ashley , I didn’t mind the long travel time , ‘coz i really want to meet his family.

We arrived to Jake’s House, it is easy to find tho’ , the place never changed so we found it easily.

”hello , do you need anything?” a girl from inside of Jake’s house asked.

Fortunately the girl knows how to speak Tagalog.

”Hi , Where’s Jake? ” I asked , Oh ”Jake? My childhood friend , why you asked him?” the girl replied

”He lives there right?” I’m quite nervous that time ‘coz that’s not what i am expecting for.

”What? He’s not living here , uhm wait I think I saw you before? Are you the one who went here 2 years ago with Jake? You’re his workmate right? You’re his workmate looking for house here? I saw you before and I did say hello to you in our dialect but I have urgent matter so I think you didn’t remember me.

I was shocked that Jake Introduced me as his workmate who’s looking for house in Bohol! But I didn’t react , I stay calm but honestly i have lots of thoughts in my mind.

”aaah , it’s you, I remember you. Uhm so you and jake are not related at all? , ‘coz he told me before that you’re his cousin and his parents is not here ‘coz they have an important affair to attend.” I asked

”That’s how we treat each other , even were not related we treat each other as one, but that time we you went here , he said to me that he just passed by and you will go to his wife after”

”Wife?” I didn’t noticed that I Shouted in Shocked.

”Yes, and it’s Jane , Did you met her? We’re not that close but I know her”

My knees are shaking , Good thing Ashley hold me tight , and even here got shocked.

I can’t talk anymore , So Ashley does ”If you don’t mind?Where’s Jakes House ‘coz we already forget the path and Can I asked how many years that he’s been married?”

”Ah so far I remember it is five years ago , when Jake is 22 years Old , Jane got pregnant so they get married.”

I can’t accept this reality , I want evidence to believe , coz maybe that’s other Jake. I wish that she’s wrong.

We’re walking while Ashley whispered ”Bes , let’s not do this , I know you can’t stand this thing!” I didn’t noticed that I’am ignoring her ,

 

We arrived at Jake’s Real House, I saw sitting on Terrace snd feeding a Child and kissed a Girl  beside him, a picture of happy family.

”Oh there’s Jake and Jane , Jake you have visitor” the girls’s said.

Jake turned his head to us smiling and vanished suddenly when he saw me.

that time i’m thinking carefully what should I react , if I will get mad or remain calm for the sake of his child.

Jake’s friend left already , Jane went out outside and talking by her dialect , all we can understand is her Body language that she want us to come inside.

I’m so angry that time , I’ve never imagined that i’m Jake’s mistress for 3 years , I want to make scene but on the other side of my mind i have no rights, I remain calm outside.

We’re at their salon of their house when I saw the frame hanging on the wall,it is  Jake and Jane’s Wedding in West.

Jake’s mother gave us Juice , She’s trying to speak in tagalog and asking us why we’re there.

Jake is in front of us , He’s paled and nervous.

”I’m looking a house here in Bohol” I said that, while looking at him , Jake’s head

Suddenly , Ashley spoke up.(In tagalog) ” Since they don’t understand , I wanna tell you this , Jake you’re jerk to do this on my friend!”

After hearing that , My tears fell down automatically ,

”Ashley, my son is her , don’t make scene here. ” Jake answered.

 

We went outside , quite far from their home.

I’m still crying event i don’t want to.

Ashley can’t stop her self to talk: (Ashley spoke in english)

”How dare you to do this ?seriously in my  Best friend ? Are you even a Human , She trusted you for 3 years! ,What the hell on earth she did wrong for you to betray her  !!! You’re such a Jerk !”

”What did you just say?” Jane asked , when she suddenly showed up from our back. She understand English at all.

 

Jake and Jane talk by their Dialect , it’s like they’re arguing.

Jane walked-out and Jake followed her.

The evening is coming , we don’t have any accommodation to stay overnight, I’m still crying that time. Suddenly Jake’s friend came up.

”Let’s go in our house , I’ll let you stay over night.’

I still can’t believe what’s happening, why it’s happening to me.

”I’m sorry , I don’t know that this will be happen amy. I’m Dulce” While passsing a hot coffee on us.

”You have no fault here Dulce” I told her while having a swallowed face. ”Thanks to you, Coz if this thing never happened I still don’t know that Jake is married.”

”Even me, I still can’t believe that Jake can do this to you and to her family , he’s so family oriented and….’

Dulce didn’t finish to talk when someone knock on the door, ”Just a second”

When Dulce opened the door , It’s Jane who has swallowed face from crying.

My tears fell down again , ”Sorry ! Sorry Jane , i didn’t know that he’s married already’, he has no sign of being married ! ”

Jane is also crying ”You’re a victim too , don’t blame yourself , now I know why he’s quite weird when he’s in Manila”

Jane told us that Jake told her that , In their Company, Married person is not allowed , ‘Coz if they’ve found out they will fire him , So their marriage should be in secret for their son’s future.

She also don’t know that Jake has different account on social media, When she saw the account she cried on burst , ‘coz there’s lot of photos of us on it.

So that’s the reason why all his posts and friends are only for his workmates and no friends and family from Bohol, I thought I’m the luckiest person ‘coz he’s too loyal to me, I thought he’s family super family oriented ‘coz he’s always saying I love you to his Mommy , Tho’ I don’t Understand them. All those time it was Jane.

I’m so dumb for not knowing the things that absolutely obvious.

He seems so perfect , But it makes sense that perfect Guys does never exists.

I told Jane that I’ll never bother their relationship.

I resigned to my work , ‘Coz it is so very impossible to forgive Jake, I chose to give way for the Child’s Sake.

In somehow I understand why Jake did that , Maybe he’s lonely and missing the romantic scene with his wife. but i did not Pity him , I just put myself on his shoes , to understand why he did that to me.

and it’s been 5 months after that incident happened, the pain is still here in my heart. , but it’s part of life, I’m still asking myself why it happened , It is because i’m too easy to get? What happened in Bohol stays in Bohol , Ashley is the only one who knows what happened, I told tomy family that we broke up in some reasons.

I’m planning to go in Hong-kong to  work there, to move on.

Thank to relate Corner for be my freedom wall.

I also want the to know that nobody wants to be a mistress , Not all mistress are bad whore , There are really unaware ‘coz Guys are really good in playing.

If someone has the same story as mine , please think carefully.  If they really love you, they shouldn’t do that no matter what. If you’re planning to fight what do think is yours, well you’re wrong. ‘coz at the first place you have no place when Law comes their way. Hope this will be a lesson to choose your partner.

It is not bad to be choosy , Just choose do you think who’s deserve on you. You deserve to be happy.

Sincerely yours;

ALEC , 25


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